Get Grounded: The Book I Wrote Because I Refused to Stay Stuck
When I moved from New York City to Denver, I was in search of something—stability, peace, direction but what I found instead was disorientation. I had transferred with my company, clinging to the safety of a paycheck, even though I knew deep down the role no longer served me. I ignored my inner voice, the one whispering this isn’t it, and instead let fear take the lead. Fear of letting go. Fear of instability. Fear of not having a plan.
I stayed in a job that drained me for six more months. Six more months of silence, suppression, and second-guessing. And that was just the beginning.
Get Grounded: The Book I Wrote Because I Refused to Stay Stuck
At the same time, I was in a relationship that diminished me. I won’t sugarcoat it, he was cruel, manipulative, and completely wrong for me. My relationship with my family was strained, unsupportive, and hollow, filled with obligation but lacking emotional safety. I didn’t have friends nearby. I didn’t have a community. I didn’t have myself.
Everything around me was unfamiliar. But worse, I had become unfamiliar to myself.
And yet, even in that chaos, there was a flicker of something deeper. A voice that never fully disappeared.
It said, you were not born to live like this.
It said, you are meant for more.
And for once—I decided to listen.
That’s when the universe placed Merri-jo Hillaker in my path. A mindset coach, author, and powerhouse of a woman. Her presence, her wisdom, and her clarity were undeniable. I enrolled in her classes, not because I had it all figured out, but because I was finally ready to start asking better questions. The kind of questions that ignite change. The kind that help you remember who you are.
With time, effort, and a lot of unlearning, I began to rebuild from the inside out. And a year and a half later, I began writing the book I wish I had when I felt like I was drowning in transition: Get Grounded: Your Compass Through Transitions and Growth.
This isn’t a book filled with fluff. It’s not a quick fix or something you flip through in a weekend. This book is a guide. A structure. A lifeline for anyone who feels lost, out of alignment, or buried under life’s expectations.
It’s the work that helped me reclaim myself and now, it’s available to you.
Why This Book Matters
Get Grounded was born from lived experience—painful, raw, and deeply real. It’s structured as an eight-week journey, where each chapter helps you peel back a layer of conditioning and reconnect with your truth.
It demands your presence. It invites your full honesty. And most importantly it shows you what’s possible when you stop abandoning yourself.
You’ll be guided to journal, move your body, sit in silence, reflect, and slowly begin to hear your own voice again. Not the voice of your job, your partner, your parents, or society. Your voice.
Because I believe this with everything in me:
You cannot build a life that is beautiful, impactful, or connected if you are not first grounded in yourself.
So many people walk through transitions on autopilot, hoping clarity will arrive without intention. But clarity only comes when we make space for it. This book is that space.
If You’re Ready to Stop Surviving and Start Leading Your Life, This Is Where You Begin
This book is for the woman who’s accomplished on paper but hollow inside. For the woman who smiles in meetings but cries alone in her car. For the woman who feels the pressure to be everything to everyone but secretly doesn’t even know what she needs.
If any of that feels familiar, Get Grounded is your next step. Not because it has all the answers, but because it will teach you how to start asking the right questions.
It’s time to stop settling.
It’s time to stop silencing the truth of who you are.
It’s time to come back home to yourself before you build anything else.
Because we begins with a grounded I.
And when you get grounded, everything in your life rises to meet you.
